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1. on a pillow
2. under a pillow
3. under a sheet
4. on a nightstand
5. in the medicine cabinet
6. tucked in the bathroom mirror
7. on a toilet seat top
8. in a pocket of pjs/robe
9. tucked into exercise clothes
10. in a shoe
11. in a bagged lunch
12. in a diaper bag
13. in a briefcase
14. in a purse
15. in a backpack
16. tucked in an ipad case
17. placed against the laptop screen
18. peeking out from under a keyboard
19. in a coffee mug or taped to the bottom
20. on a window sill
21. in the fridge (under a recently purchased fav desert is optional)
22. in the coffee canister
23. clipped to the wall calendar (or tucked into the day-to-day calendar pages)
24. tacked on the fridge
25. taped to a cereal box, egg carton, breakfast food container
26. tacked to the kitchen cabinet
27. in the silverware drawer
28. in the underwear drawer
29. tucked with a bookmark in current book
30. tucked into the morning newspaper
31. on the dashboard
32. on the front seat
33. on the windshield
34. on a high chair / baby bouncer
35. taped to the tv
36. threaded through a phone charger
37. tucked under a dinner plate
38. rubberbanded / taped to wine glass
39. taped to lawn mower engine or handle
40. tacked to lawn furniture / hammock / patio chair
41. taped to the top of the grill
42. taped to front door of the house
43. on top of or not-so-obviously hidden in the bathroom reading material
44. tacked to outer side of the shower curtain
45. taped to a shower faucet
46. peaking out of a filing cabinet.
47. taped to the floor between bed and bath
48. left by the jewelry or makeup
49. left WITH jewelry or makeup
50. attached to Fido's collar
51. on the mantle
52. visible but behind the fish tank / goldfish bowl or next to the cat’s food bowl
53. left inside microwave
54. tucked into bra or beltline
55. taped to light switch
56. taped to top of takeout delivery (arranged in advance or immediately at the door)
57. in a shirt breast pocket
58. in a sock drawer
59. in the drapes/blinds
60. on a windowpane
61. in a coat pocket
62. in the middle of large stack of mail
63. next to the razor/shaver or behind the toothbrushes
64. in ziploc bag in freezer
65. on a desk chair
66. taped to the inside of the washing machine lid
67. with a often-used sex toy or lube
68. taped to the ceiling
69. covering a just-the-two-of-you photo

That was 69 Places to ... Leave a Love Note.

Try it.

Don’t text it.

Trust me. Texting has it’s ooh moments. But can also appear at THE most inappropriate times! Plus, the lack of that immediate reply can immediately be misinterpreted. Not to mention, what about some immediate action to go with that immediate reaction? AND, remember that feeling of getting a real card – this one with beautiful, romantic penned illustrations – that has your name handwritten on it and is signed – a signature! – with, I hope, a note or at least, a few x’s and o’s (or oh’s . . . ).

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Kat Rowan, CoFounder and Creative Director of TiffinTalk, highly recommends TiffinTalk’s Heart2Heart boxed set of 69 romantic, silly, sexy, intimate, loving cards for 69 places and 69 ways to say (and remember) to love and be loved right back. "Buy one, get some"; it's "the gift that keeps on coming." <Individual results may vary. Do no operate heavy machinery while using TiffinTalk cards. See your doctor regularly anyway. etc. TiffinTalk is not responsible for anything beyond communication and giggles; all activity resulting from any card is, we hope, fun and passionate.> Oh, and for more fun, try Uberlube . . . the unexpected  is a lovely gift . . .

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I’m just not a big fan of the holiday blog posts. I generally cannot relate to the happiness quotient.

They irk me as much as those holiday letters that reflect an entire year of only perfect moments in someone's else's less-than-perfect-but-shhhhhhh-don't-tell-anyone life.

I get the magic of the holidays – but only if I pause long enough to stare into the eyes of my now-young-adult-but-not-so-long-ago-much-younger daughters.

But, I have to say that even they are very tired of the muss and fuss; of the retail season that is thrust upon everyone one of us months in advance; of the "take down this decor to put up that" – only to repeat it again in a few weeks but in reverse.

My girls are wanting less to-do time so that we can have more together-time. It took decades, but they figured out the magic of the season.

Thus, our family traditions are being reinvented to minimize what had turned into “routine chaos”.

Routine chaos usually begins with any holiday that means that your kids have a longer break than you do. Everyone’s schedule changes. And it’s not always for the better or the saner.

Kids get time-and-a-half off for their supposed good behavior at their job (read: school). And for that, you get to rush around trying to:

• spend quality time with those barely-recognizable children who spend more hours in school and extracurricular activities than they do with you. (“Put away the tech!!! Let’s do something together! You pick. And, no, not a video game.”);
• sqeeeeeeeze and appease all the relatives who will be slighted beyond the usual “hrumph” if you don’t make as much time for them as you do for other relatives – and yes, they have a score sheet;
• spend time with caring friends who are decidedly not using spreadsheets to compare your time with them vs anyone else because, hell, they are having the exact same issues you are and they are just grateful you are NOT keeping track;
• see every doctor, dentist, orthodontist, allergist, and every other specialist (including the vet) when everyone "has off" so you DON'T have to figure out how your child can make up the exam that they missed because of your not-so-excellent school-year scheduling karma AND it doesn’t require that you take an increasingly-scarce sick day. (Wait: You’re allowed sick days?)

Routine Chaos: It’s predictable. It’s the holiday season. Spring break. Summer vacation. Fall break.

Year after year. You know it’s coming. You plan it – often in minute detail. You look forward to it. (Well, some of you do.)

There are always attempts to reconfigure it for the next round to include more relaxation.

But that never works.

Expect chaos, and you will achieve a much more zen time with family, friends, and, even, relatives.

And, by the way, for those people keeping track of your overly-scheduled time (a combination of artistic prowess and project management skills), you may give yourself permission to free up someone else's scoreboard and claim that time for YOU instead.

Highly recommended. Not easy, but highly recommended.

And every therapist in the world will congratulate and hug you for your courage and honesty (even if you have to tell a white lie to get out of seeing that yet-another-required-person to free up you-space).

One more thing regarding together time: when you turn the tech off, have a pre-planned agreement of what you will all do in order to avoid the sheer unplugged panic.

Board games don’t have to be played on the screen, for instance, and you can still buy them – even the original retro ones without the plastic bits and eye-grating revamped design!

Ditto card games on that no-screen-necessary concept.

Ditto anything involving the great outdoors and a ball or bike or tent in the yard; or, depending on your weather, a snowmen family or treehouse or Little Free Library construction project.

Ditto family movie night that ends in a popcorn food fight followed by a treasure hunt of who can find the most pieces and ending with hugs before your teens even know you hugged 'em.

Be creative. Be crazy. Let your kids and family know that any idea is up for a majority agreement and if it’s not unanimous, then oh gee, you’ll have to spend even more time together with Plans B, C, and D. 

Finally, remember to this: Be decidedly un-adult. That is: let your guard down and find your inner child again. That’s a gift for everyone including yourself! A little mess. A lotta laughter. And a lot of utter silliness.

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Routine Chaos. I can’t say I recommend it. I can’t say I enjoy the anticipation of all the changes in schedules and moods. But I can say that when I let go of my “have-to’s” and encourage more “want-to’s” for myself and for others, it’s a helluva lot more fun.

And I love those moments.

With the people I love.

Memory makers. Our way. Routine chaos becomes a family tradition of laughter and letting go.

Kat is CEO and Creative Director of TiffinTalk, a company that creates cards focused on different themes for different uses (therapy, parenting, coupling, and “senioring”); cards that are meant to be personalized, to engage in real time, face-to-face conversations. When we shift schedules, we often finder it harder to talk; our usual "How was your day?" falls even flatter – especially if you were a significant part of an awkwardly silent day. Whether you are interested in bettering conversations at home, with students at school, with clients in therapy, with your own parents, or with your colleagues, TiffinTalk has got you covered. In an age where we unlearned how to talk face-to-face, TiffinTalk to the rescue. Less chaos. More moments. Email Kat (This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.) to talk about talk.